Dear Michelle Valentine,

I love hearing you on the TV and radio. You are such an inspiration to me, and thousands of others I am sure. Your advice has taken me a long way in the past few years, but I still have one problem when it comes to finding the “right” woman.

I have what you might call a small fetish in bed.

It seems to be a problem when I mention it to a woman that I am dating and approaching the point of being romantically involved with them on a physical level. It seems that when I mention my “issue” to the opposite sex, I get rejected immediately.

I am looking to you for some advice, since I really believe in you.

I am very up front with all of my dates and let them know what I like before I jump into bed with them and expect them to do it. I just can’t seem to find anyone who is willing to accept me and my fetish.

Is there anything that you can do to help me?

I am desperate and am willing to try anything to find someone who will take me as I am. Please help.

O.R. Ryan


Dear Ryan,

Expecting women you immediately meet to adhere to your unusual fetish is a bit much for anyone to handle.

Best would be to wait until you meet your “Miss Right” to share your fetish with – maybe she will have one of her own to share, too.

If you are obsessed with having you fetish met immediately, I suggest you seek professional help.

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