Dear Michelle Valentine,
I met a great guy recently (hard to find a great guy in Orlando). We talked, seemed like we had a lot in common, we exchanged phone numbers, etc., then I asked him to a small party that some of my friends were having.
While at the party, he blatantly flirted with another girl, ignoring me! I was so embarrassed in front of my friends.
What would you have done?
I’ve been invited to a really big Super Bowl party, and want to invite him because I like him a lot.
What should I do?
Embarrassed in Orlando
The only person who should be embarrassed is your date!
So… you went on a “first date” with a guy you just met, and then he ignored you at the party you invited him to?!
What you didn’t mention were a lot of details: How long he ignored you… did he ignore you for the entire length of the party while with the other girl, or just for a very brief time?
Did he flirt with this other girl while you were standing next to him? (If so, that’s very rude and inconsiderate on his part.)
Was he truly flirting… or just conversing with someone who was able to hold his attention about game statistics?
Are you overreacting… or is he really an insensitive jerk?
So, you ask what would I have done in that situation?
If he flirted with another girl while I was standing next to him, I would have given him a playful poke in the rib, along with a stern look. If he did it again, I would re-consider being with a man that exhibits that type of insensitive behavior. Keep in mind, on a first date, individuals should be on their best behavior to impress their date, hoping for a second date.
But if he ignored me for the entire length of the party (as in actively avoiding my company), I would have talked to him to find out if it was true that he doesn’t enjoy my company. If so, I would have accepted his feelings and casually went on and flirted with other single guys at the party, or just gone and spent time with my girlfriends at the party.
But the true answer to your question about whether or not you should invite him to the upcoming Super Bowl party lies whether he has contacted you or not after that first party.
If you have been spending time with him since then – and he’s not been flirting with other women while in your presence – then go ahead and invite him to your upcoming Super Bowl party.
But if he has not contacted you since that last party – meaning he’s not interested in you – I would not initiate contact again by inviting him to your upcoming Super Bowl party.
Don’t feel defeated!
Gear Up: Pick out a sexy outfit (tight jeans and form-fitting t-shirt), go to the party, and make it your goal to flirt with a few guys at the party. Have a great time, and forget about Mr. Flirt!
Now, I would love to hear from you, Dear Readers: Have you – or someone you’ve known – to be in this flirting situation? Or… if not, what advice would YOU give to this letter-writer? Yes, more than one answer is allowed – but I’m truly curious as to what made your heart pound the most.
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