Dear Michelle Valentine,

Do you know of any 12-step programs for singles who are very angry and trying to recover from failed relationships, something like alcoholics anonymous?

I know that I have a lot of resentment and anger (and am sure that other singles do, too).

Is there an alternative for singles other than spending hundreds of dollar per hour on professional help?

David, Davenport


Dear David,

Congratulations! You already have taken the first two steps toward healing – acknowledging your angry and negative feelings – and seeking help.

If these angry feelings are so overwhelming that they prevent you from enjoying your life to the fullest or if you find yourself obsessed with angry thoughts of past relationships, professional help may be what you need, and there are some low-cost and no-cost options.

For one, go online and look under “social service organizations” for groups that use the words mental health or divorce in their names. Ask them to refer you to a support group in your area.

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Another suggestion is to call a local psychiatrist or psychotherapist and ask to be referred to a no-cost counseling center. For low-cost options, contact a registered social worker for counseling, often available for $50 an hour and up.

Another alternative is to look in your local newspaper for support group meetings – church-related ones may be a good place to start.

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One last note: Be sure to check to see if your medical insurance company pays for mental health therapy – if it is not covered, some mental-health professionals are willing to make payment-plan arrangements or work with you on a sliding scale, based upon your income.

Please keep in touch with me.

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Have you been through a bad breakup and needed help? How did you cope? Help others cope, too, by leaving a comment below…

What you have to say may just be what someone else needs to have a major breakthrough in their life!

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With so much love and appreciation,

Michelle Valentine