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Dear Michelle Valentine,

I really enjoyed talking to you the other week during the class from that New York author… Do you remember me, about my unusual relationship dilemma? What was that 8-point system she talked about to find out if you’re compatible with someone or not?

Marilyn, Casselberry


Dear Marilyn,

It was a fantastic seminar, wasn’t it? Here’s the 8-point system to find out if you are compatible with someone you are dating:

On the point scale of 1 – 10 (with 10 being the best), rate your date and then rate yourself on these six topics:

  1. Physical Appearance
  2. Possessions / Money
  3. Status / Prestige
  4. Information / Knowledge
  5. Social Graces / Personality
  6. Inner Nature

Take the two totals and subtract the difference. If there are eight or more points difference between the two of you, you can generally conclude that you would not be compatible.

Be sure to attend my upcoming popular seminar, “How to have ‘Approachable’ Body Language”. It is a fantastic seminar, and you will discover an entirely new way to positively present yourself in situations such as social functions and business meetings. It is an entertaining seminar, with a lot of audience participation. Be prepared for a lot of laughter!

What is your score on the 8 point system? Please leave a comment below!


Michelle Valentine

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