Dear Michelle Valentine,

I’m a single guy, aged 34. I’m attractive, successful in my career and am a lot of fun.

I’m tired of the singles scene and really want to find a good woman, get married, and have a family.

Can you tell me where I can find a good woman?

I seem to meet the wrong kind of women in bars, and I don’t want to pay a thousand dollars to join one of those dating services!

Still Looking


Dear Looking,

You future wife could be anywhere that you like to occupy your time, based on your personal interests…

She could be the young woman flipping through retro record albums at the music store…

She could be sitting next to you in church…

Or she could be someone that you already know, but overlooked.

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There are good women everywhere – you have to start making conversations.

Also, you must learn to quickly “interview” them before you ask them out.

When you see someone you’re interested in, ask her key questions like:

If she enjoys being single…

What her interests are…

What her personal goals are…

If she says she “loves dating around” and does not want children, move on to another woman.

The more women you talk to, the higher your chance of meeting your future wife.

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Meeting her can happen by chance, but why not put yourself out there among thousands of women, too?

Consider online dating or going to large concerts.

When you are really serious, consider the investment of hiring a personal Matchmaker. A Matchmaker will work with you one-on-one to find your future wife.

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With so much love and appreciation,


Michelle Valentine