Dear Michelle Valentine,

My husband left a year and a half ago after a twenty-five year marriage. He is the only person I have ever dated and been with. I don’t know how to start my life over.

I have become very lonely and am still very upset over my divorce.

I just can’t seem to get over what has happened to me.

How do I meet other singles that are lonely like me?

I have gone back to finish my college education, but despite school and my job, I am very unhappy.

I’ve watch your TV talk show every week and I went to see you speak at Barnes & Noble (Booksellers).

I respect your advice.

How to Start Over


Dear Starting Over,

Thank you for watching my TV Show and attending my seminar!

By doing things such as these, you are helping yourself towards coping with being (unhappily) single.

Although a year and a half is a hefty amount of time for you to not be over the divorce yet, I do congratulate you for guiding yourself towards a new and brighter life by continuing your education.

You seem to be an ambitious, loyal, and outgoing person and are taking the right steps towards a new beginning.

You must realize one important factor, though, that I think you may be missing the point on:

You are letting other persons see the unhappy side of your life.

Remember that no one wants to be around an unhappy person!

Let those wonderful qualities of yours shine through when meeting new men.

Keep a positive disposition everywhere you go.

When talking to new people you meet, talk only about the HAPPY things going on in your life.

Where to meet other singles, you ask?

Keep attending self-help and educational courses…

Attend singles events (wearing a beautiful dress and a big smile, too!)…

Tell married women you know that you are single and looking…

Give online dating a try…

Volunteer at non-profit organizations that are close to your heart.

There are many ways to meet someone, so get out of the house and you won’t be lonely any more!

Dear Reader:

Do you – or someone you know – that tried to go back into the dating world after a divorced? Please leave a comment below!

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With so much love and appreciation,


Michelle Valentine


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