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Dear Michelle Valentine,

I’ve been having an on-again, off-again relationship with this gorgeous guy, a musician.

We bicker constantly (which usually turns into a fight), and we basically don’t have the same ideas of what a relationship should be.

He is not supportive of listening to my career concerns, and he doesn’t hold a strong interest in my family.

We have just broken up (again), and I’m wondering if I should go back with him.

It’s always the same: we fight, we break up, he calls me, he comes over; and we’re back to square one.

What do you think is going on with me?

Becky, via email

Dear Becky,

If you are with someone who you have put on a pedestal, you need to pay extremely close attention to how you really feel when you are with him.

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Strong feelings of infatuation (or lust) can cloud your judgment of a “gorgeous guy, a musician”.

A lot of people cannot resist that “magic feeling”; you feel it, and then you’re off and running.

When you experience chemistry with someone, you connect right away, and before you know it, you’re in a relationship.

Look at this “relationship” and truly see if you find any compatibility.

If not, it’s time to move on!

Ask yourself this question: “Do I feel nurtured in this relationship?”

If your answer is no, you’ve also answered the question of whether you should stay in the relationship.

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Have you dated a man and didn’t know where the relationship was going?

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We’ve all had good and bad experiences in our lives. We all have gifts to share… especially the gift of knowledge. My hope is that this week’s advice column empowers you to take (or continue on) the wonderful journeys  life has to offer!

Now, I would love to hear from you… Have you – or someone you’ve known – to be in this situation? Or… if not, what advice would YOU give to this letter-writer? Yes, more than one answer is allowed – but I’m truly curious as to what made your heart pound the most.

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With so much love and appreciation,


Michelle Valentine