Dear Michelle Valentine,

I would appreciate your advice about a dating dilemma. My technical career has brought me to the Orlando area for what was supposed to have been a 6-month assignment.

This “temporary” work assignment is now going on 2 years with no end in sight.

I still have a house in another state that I still consider my home.

Unfortunately, I have never figured out the when and how of discussing a bi-coastal relocation within the context of a long-term relationship.

Consequently, I have not pursued any relationships in Orlando beyond the friendship stage.

Am I putting the cart before the horse and worrying too much about future bridges before they need to be crossed?

My personal growth has been in check for the past 2 years, so I would like to know your thoughts on the actions I should take and the mindset that I should use to get back onto a positive personal growth path.

Dating Dilemma, S.W. Orlando


Dear Dating Dilemma,

Although we met and did not have much time to chat at my last seminar at Borders Books to discuss in detail this letter you had sent me, I will just re-cap what we had touched base on (for your sake as well as someone out in the same situation).

First of all, kudos to you for taking the initiative of attending one of my seminars on “How to Find Love…” I believe you have reached the point where you feel it is a true shame to have let all this time pass without letting the possibility of love enter your life – especially within such the lengthy time as 2 years!

You seemed to appear as a stable and pleasant young man with a wonderful career. If you find someone who truly loves you, they will work around your situation, and who knows… she may be willing to move back “home” with you.

Then again, Orlando is such a wonderful place to live, that maybe you will be the one to decide to stay here and make Orlando your new home!

Keep in touch!

Dear Reader:

We’ve all had good and bad experiences in our lives. We all have gifts to share… especially the gift of knowledge. My hope is that this week’s advice column empowers you to take (or continue on) the wonderful journeys  life has to offer!

Now, I would love to hear from you… Have you – or someone you’ve known – to be in this situation? Or… if not, what advice would YOU give to this letter-writer? Yes, more than one answer is allowed – but I’m truly curious as to what made your heart pound the most.

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With so much love and appreciation,


Michelle Valentine