Dear Michelle Valentine,
Do you know of any 12-step programs for singles who are trying to recover from failed relationships, something like alcoholics anonymous?
I know that I have a lot of resentment and anger (and am sure that other singles do, too).
Is there an alternative for singles other than spending hundreds of dollar per hour on professional help?
Congratulations! You already have taken the first two steps toward healing – acknowledging your negative feelings and seeking help.
If these feelings are so overwhelming that they prevent you from enjoying your life to the fullest or if you find yourself obsessed with thoughts of past relationships, professional help may be what you need, and there are some low-cost and no-cost options.
For one, go online and look under “social service organizations” for groups that use the words mental health or divorce in their names. Ask them to refer you to a support group in your area.
Another suggestion is to call a local psychiatrist or psychotherapist and ask to be referred to a no-cost counseling center. For low-cost options, contact a registered social worker for counseling, often available for $50 an hour and up.
Another alternative is to look in your local newspaper for support group meetings – church-related ones may be a good place to start.
In your personal time, read the Feeling Good Handbook. Written by David Burns, a medical doctor, it teaches you specific skills to let go of difficult situations and move on.
One last note: Be sure to check to see if your medical insurance company pays for mental health therapy – if it is not covered, some mental-health professionals are willing to make payment-plan arrangements or work with you on a sliding scale, based upon your income.
Please keep in touch with me.
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With so much love and appreciation,
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